Your privacy
Your words belong to you
Rebuilding Us is built so that nothing you write is visible to anyone else unless you deliberately share it. These protections are enforced by our servers, not just hidden on screen.
Your partner can see
- Your first name
- Individual reflections you chose to share (a snapshot at the moment you shared)
- Responses on shared reflections
- Joint agreements and their history
Your partner can never see
- Drafts or autosaved writing
- Journal entries and answers you haven't shared
- Shares you've revoked
- Your email address or anything after you disconnect
Important to know
Rebuilding Us is a self-guided workbook. It is not therapy, counseling, or a substitute for professional help, and it does not use AI to analyze your relationship.
If you are in danger or feel unsafe with your partner, please don't share anything that could put you at risk, and reach out to local emergency services or a domestic violence hotline.
You can disconnect from your partner or permanently delete your account at any time from Settings.
Privacy & security test checklist
Use two test accounts (and a third for outsider checks) to verify:
- Partner A cannot see Partner B's drafts, journal entries or unshared answers (Journal and Workbook stay empty of the other's content).
- Trying to share a draft is refused — only entries marked finished can be shared.
- Sharing asks for confirmation and the entry then shows a “Shared” badge for the author.
- Revoking a share hides it from the partner immediately (refresh the partner's Shared page).
- Editing an entry after sharing does not change what the partner sees until it is re-shared.
- Invitation codes expire after 48 hours, work only once, and cannot be accepted by the person who created them.
- A third account cannot accept a code already used, and cannot see the couple's shares or agreements.
- Accepting an invitation requires an explicit Accept click after seeing who sent it.
- Agreements show “Awaiting approval” until both partners approve the latest version; every revision appears in version history.
- After disconnecting, neither partner can see the other's shares, responses, name or agreements.
- Deleting an account removes that person's entries, shares, responses and couple link.
- Signed-out visitors are redirected to sign in for every workbook page.